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Self-Righteousness Opposes Connection

“I’m right!”  This must mean that “you’re wrong.”  Bummer for you.  You don’t agree? “You either believe my beliefs or I’m done with you!” Look familiar? You see, anytime we’re in a disagreement where either or both parties are closed-minded (convinced they’re right), there’s no connection and it’s an impossible conversation. What are your views

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Calm in the Midst of Chaos (Seven Points to “Pushing Your Edge”)

Guess what? I went white water rafting.  Again.  Last year, it was an 8-day white water rafting trip down the Grand Canyon.  This year a 4-day trip to Canyonlands, Utah.  Somehow, I think I’m an adventurous thrill seeker.  And then I get out there, thrill seeking, and remember that I’m not. I know what you’re

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Are You a “Fixer?”

The conversation typically goes something like this, “Karen, my friend has an alcoholic boyfriend.  She’s unhappy and I think she needs to get out of the relationship.  He’s no good for her.  Will you work with her?” Then I have an honest conversation with the person who called.  Although her friend’s situation is tough, she’s

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