I was about four years old when I had an encounter with a group of boys who were bullying my older brother. The lead bully was the oldest and largest boy and there were his minions, three or four smaller and younger bullies who hid behind his fury. As he got closer to my brother, […]
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Really Karen? You’re going to tell me that people pleasing is another way that we hide? Well, ummmm, yes…I am. This is what I’m trying to get at. Hiding happens in many ways, and most of them are so subtle that we don’t even know it. Addiction is an easy one to spot, but people
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Blame. “I’m (uncomfortable/mad/hurt/not happy) and it’s your fault.” That means that I’m not taking ownership of myself and my life experiences. I have given that power to you. I have disempowered myself and have made you the reason for my anger and unhappiness. Isn’t that sometimes what we do? Fall into the blame game…making others
Today we’re discussing my interpretation of the relationship triangle, or what is lovingly referred to as the “Drama Triangle.” By gaining some awareness of these roles that we play out all (to some extent), this can have a positive effect on creating healthier relationships. If you want that, read on… The Rescuer, Victim, and Persecutor
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It’s another tough conversation today, my friend. This one’s about inappropriate sexual behavior and language, much of which has been all over the media lately. I’m sharing from my own experience and perspective, and I am not looking to blame or shame either side. Do I have a solution toward making it better? Well, I
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“With communication, you bond; without it, you separate.” Karen Solt Having relationship problems? Having trouble honestly discussing them with your partner? That would not be unusual. Here’s the deal: if you don’t feel safe and valued in your relationship, you can’t communicate your true feelings; so, you don’t have an honest relationship…yet. This dishonest, non-communicative relationship
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“Many of our problems stem from attitudes like putting ourselves first at all costs.” — The Dalai Lama Yep, narcissism. We have all encountered someone who is so over-the-top arrogant that we label them “a narcissist.” But Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not something that we take should lightly or “sideline-diagnose” people with. A true narcissist
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I’m currently traveling on a plane, sitting in the middle seat between two people I don’t know. I have, of course, formed an opinion about them, but I don’t really “know” them. That’s what we do, right? We make judgments and form opinions. It comes naturally, but those opinions say more about me than they
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“There’s a pink elephant in the room.” We’ve all heard that phase, right? What is a pink elephant and how did it become the spokes-animal for poor communication or things that people are avoiding? If you’re looking for those answers, I doubt I’ll be able to provide them. But if you’re looking for some thoughts
Elephants are Cute…But Pink Elephants Suck Read More »
I’ll let you in on a little secret: If I have resentment toward someone or I am feeling depressed about some past thing or event, I have an unmet expectation. The subtle setup of an expectation can hit me like a left jab before I even knew it was there. What is an expectation anyway?
Expectations — the Subtle Setup Read More »