Really Karen? You’re going to tell me that people pleasing is another way that we hide? Well, ummmm, yes…I am. This is what I’m trying to get at. Hiding happens in many ways, and most of them are so subtle that we don’t even know it. Addiction is an easy one to spot, but people […]
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Addiction is one of the most common and most dangerous forms of hiding. Regardless of the method, it steals your current moment and places you in an altered state. I’ve written and have also spoken on this topic extensively—such as Addiction, From Friend to Foe —and will probably touch on it in future blogs, as
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I’ve spent the last few years writing a memoir about my life in hiding, discovering how it started and where I went. It was my “excavation process,” which gifted me with no choice but to go in the opposite direction. Away from hiding. Back into living. Here is what I know for sure. Hiding is
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Let’s start with disclaimers: White, Female, Blonde, Gay, Veteran, Middle Class, 50-something, Alive. Now let’s get into the reason for this blog: I know you’re frustrated. COVID has you down. You’re being told what to do. You’re living in a world where you just can’t be yourself. Can’t express yourself fully. Can’t just go out
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Blame. “I’m (uncomfortable/mad/hurt/not happy) and it’s your fault.” That means that I’m not taking ownership of myself and my life experiences. I have given that power to you. I have disempowered myself and have made you the reason for my anger and unhappiness. Isn’t that sometimes what we do? Fall into the blame game…making others
Relationships take work. Not only familial or romantic relationships, friends, co-workers, your neighbors, and more…there are many people you are in relationship with. Setting boundaries are a necessary and a very healthy part of mutually beneficial and respectful relationships. Letting people know what you will and won’t permit in your relationships, gives them clear communication
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It starts with an email, asking me if I’ll come speak to Gender/Sexuality Alliance teenage students in a local high school, for me to share my experience with them as a gay woman. It’s always a Yes. I feel it’s important to share my personal experience with self-betrayal and societal-rejection, and my journey now back
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You’re sitting on your couch. Lonely. Bored. Don’t want to talk to anyone in your house. They’re looking at their phones too. You’re feeling down. “Let me post something,” your mind says to no one but itself. Super-happy selfie taken. “Hey, everyone that’s important to me…here’s what I’m doing right now!” I’m sitting on my
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I know you because I am a part of you, even though you can’t physically see me. When I’m in action, I permeate every part of you…your mind, your body, your heart and your spirit. Today I come clean It doesn’t mean that I’ll leave, because I can’t. Some of me is necessary…and ridding the
I know the exact moment when I understood the priceless value of freedom. It was 2004 and I was on an aircraft carrier, on my final Navy deployment. We were somewhere in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. I felt captive. I couldn’t go home, hug my partner, drive my car, go to my favorite
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