An interesting experience happened to me a few weeks ago, when an acquaintance who knows that I’ve written a memoir asked me how my business was going. I innocently responded by telling him I was starting a course. “Oh?” he said, seemingly intrigued. “What’s the course about?” “It’s called How to Come Out from Hiding,” […]
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It was June 2016 when I wrote, Wherever You Are, Be There. I had traveled from Southern California to my hometown in Northern Arizona to care for my hospitalized father while my mother was on travel. I sat at their dining room table and had one of those not-always-the-case writing moments as the words came
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Let’s discuss perfectionism, one of the classic ways that we hide. This is definitely one of my hiding foes, so much so that I’ve written other blogs on this topic. What I know for sure is that perfectionism is extremely rampant in many of us. What I also know is that it can show up
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I, like you, remember 9-11 as if it were yesterday. The images seared in my mind. My feelings—confusion, disbelief, fear, panic, dismay, powerlessness, sorrow, anger—still easily accessible. Stuck in my heart and throat. Still haunting me. I’ll never forget that day. I had already been serving in the U.S. Navy for 17 years when 9-11
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I was about four years old when I had an encounter with a group of boys who were bullying my older brother. The lead bully was the oldest and largest boy and there were his minions, three or four smaller and younger bullies who hid behind his fury. As he got closer to my brother,
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The moment Kristin, my book coach, said, “Karen, it feels like you’re hiding on the page,” is one I’ll never forget. I’d been writing that book for over three years. At the time, it was a self-help book about the steps to come out from hiding. But Kristin was right. I was deeply absorbed in
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Really Karen? You’re going to tell me that people pleasing is another way that we hide? Well, ummmm, yes…I am. This is what I’m trying to get at. Hiding happens in many ways, and most of them are so subtle that we don’t even know it. Addiction is an easy one to spot, but people
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Addiction is one of the most common and most dangerous forms of hiding. Regardless of the method, it steals your current moment and places you in an altered state. I’ve written and have also spoken on this topic extensively—such as Addiction, From Friend to Foe —and will probably touch on it in future blogs, as
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I’ve spent the last few years writing a memoir about my life in hiding, discovering how it started and where I went. It was my “excavation process,” which gifted me with no choice but to go in the opposite direction. Away from hiding. Back into living. Here is what I know for sure. Hiding is
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Let’s start with disclaimers: White, Female, Blonde, Gay, Veteran, Middle Class, 50-something, Alive. Now let’s get into the reason for this blog: I know you’re frustrated. COVID has you down. You’re being told what to do. You’re living in a world where you just can’t be yourself. Can’t express yourself fully. Can’t just go out
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